Men, are you worried for your own safety because misandry?
You need to accept that misandry happens in the real world and take some precautions.
Take a self defense class, they’re only a couple hundred dollars a month.
Don’t go out after dark unless you have a woman to chaperone you.Misandrists are less likely to attack if they see you are with another woman.
Don’t wear anything too douchey. If you’re wearing a fedora or a sexist t-shirt, etc. you’re pretty much asking to get attacked. Misandrists can’t control themselves when they see a man in a fedora, their instincts kick in and before they know it they have a dead male corpse in their hands. Just be a good boy and don’t tempt them, okay?
Don’t ever invite a woman into your home. Misandrists will interpret this as consent to physical violence.
Drinking increases your risk of being attacked by a misandrist. They target drunk men because their inhibitions are lowered.
Never leave your drink unattended. Misandrists are notorious for poisoning men at parties and bars.
If a misandrist does attack you, be quiet and just let her finish or you might anger her further and you are liable to get murdered instead of just mutilated. But also, be sure to put up a good fight because a lot of men say they don’t want to be attacked by misandrists but deep down, they really like it.
And remember, accusing a woman of abusive misandry is worse than being abused by a misandrist. So before you make accusations, make sure it wasn’t all just a silly misunderstanding.
This letter is an apology. An apology for being an adult who has failed to make the world safe for you. Because you should be safe. Even when you make the sometimes stupid, often naive choices that teens make, you should be safe.
Your vulnerability should not invite assault and attack of your body or your spirit. And so I am sorry, because we have failed to teach your male peers that they have no right to touch you without your consent or to use you to meet their needs or to discard you if your victimization does not fit their life plan. I am sorry we have failed you.
This letter is also a note of gratitude for your willingness to report this crime, to take the stand, and to endure the viciousness hurled at you this week. I know the words that run in a loop in your mind. Don’t tell. If you tell, no one will believe you. If you tell, everyone will think you are a whore. Sometimes he is the one who says them first, spewing the words like mold spores that grow in the darkness of your silence. Sometimes it’s your own voice telling you, I can’t tell. No one will believe me. It’s the reason 54%of survivors never report the assault. It’s the reason I kept my secret for nearly a decade. But not you, beloved. You demanded the right to be heard.
You may have lost your voice that night, but you found it again when you told the truth–even though you knew, didn’t you? You knew just how relentlessly they would try to silence you.
You knew that neighbors, and friends, and even members of the national media would mourn the loss of your attackers’ football careers more than the loss of your innocence. You knew that even those who claimed to be sympathetic would pass along the pictures of your assault with a tone deaf voyeurism that seeks to make you a thing instead of a person. I think maybe you knew, or suspected these things, but you spoke out anyway.
And that…that is astonishing. And I want to say thank you, because you did what so many of us never find the strength to do. You spoke for yourself. You spoke for the 44% of rape victims who are under 18–and you spoke for my 14-year-old self, who still hears that threat echoing in my head, “Don’t tell. No one will believe you.”
So, this is my apology and this is my gratitude. This is me saying, “I believe you.”
And I believe you are inherently valuable. Not as a character in some grotesque news cycle where your assault is all we know, but as a girl with hopes and dreams and ambitions and vulnerabilities and so much more growing up to do. I never need to know your name, but I need you to know you are not alone. Surviving is not a single occurrence, it is a lifetime of making choices that honor you and your right to speak. You have begun surviving. You will continue surviving. And if you ever get down, or wonder how you will go on, take out this letter and read it to yourself.
A reason rape continues is that communities refuse to hold perpetrators responsible while closing ranks to defend or even celebrate the rapist.
In Aug 2012 a 16 year old girl was raped in a High School Football dominated town. The self titled “rape crew” may have planned the assault as revenge after the victim broke up with Cody Saltsman who sent messages stating that “nobody breaks up with Cody Saltsman, Ill ruin that bitch”. This was a month before the rape. Saltsman’s best friend,Trent Mays, started texting the victim asking her for a date.
‘mammabear’, tweeted: ‘The plan began. Your friend will pretend to like her. You will have her bring him to the party where she can be… kidnapped, raped, sodomized, defecated on, photographed, videoed, HUMILIATED publicly OVER and OVER again.
And thats just what they did; allegedly drugging her, dragging the victim from party to party, exposing her breast for photographs, penetrating her with their hands, gang raping her vaginally and anally, urinating on her, etc. All the while sending pictures and video over social media.
While Steubenville, Ohio tried to keep this story quite Anonymous has kept a spotlight on the case, claiming officials are covering up the crime that may involve other football players. Anonymous has organized protests including another one for Saturday, and recovered some online posts that were deleted by students.
Nearly 1 in 5 women will be the victim of an attempted or completed rape in her lifetime. Three women a day die at the hands of their boyfriends or husbands.
And yet the media wants us to take the men’s word… she had given consent.
The “rape crew” includes Trent Mays, Malik Richmond, Michael Colin Nodianos, Charlie Keenan, and Cody Saltsman. All Big Red Football players. Cody was initially charged with the other two. Trent and Malik are no longer being tried as adults and are out on bail.
A video shows Michael Nodianos talking about the rape and referring to the teen involved as a “dead girl” for over 12 min. Others in the video tried to explain the situation. “What if that was your daughter?” someone asked. “If that was my daughter, I wouldn’t care. I would just let her be dead.” He went on to ask “is it really rape if you don’t know if she wanted to or not? She might have wanted it. That might have been her final wish.”
After hacking Mr. Park’s e-mail and finding several photos of young women Anonymous claims that James “Jim” Parks, an avid fan and is the webmaster/owner of a private fan site for the team, might have been hiring the players to go to parties and send him pics of girls they take advantage of. James “Jim” Parks E-Mail Files
Watch Sheriff Abdalla lie to protesters. He states that being aware of the attack is not a crime. Wrong! Witnessing a crime and failing to report it is in itself a crime – if not conspiracy or being an accessory. He says that he has nothing to do with the investigation, then states that he assisted the local police department in confiscating cell phones and other electronics. Where several key pieces of evidence were “inadvertently” deleted. And finally he states that he can not investigate the attack because it is not his jurisdiction even though a Sheriffs authority, under constitutional law, even trumps the federal law enforcement agencies in his own county. Allegedly, Sheriff Abdalla runs the largest illegal gambling operation in Jefferson County – employing bookies who work out of the Spot Bar. Sheriff Abdulla’s brother is the largest importer of cocaine in Jefferson County.
The Sheriff and Head Football Coach have breakfast a couple of times a week.
Coach Reno A. Saccoccia motto to his boys is: “lie till you die”. When he became aware of the rape he attempted to hold off sheriff deputies, encouraging his “boys” to delete everything. Mr. Saccoccia has formed a social and academic bubble of protection where the players are carefully segregated and take their exams separate from other students, and encouraged to cheat. The teachers assist the players in cheating on state tests which the players have a 100% pass rate on. Assistant Coach Pierro allows the boys to view porn on his computer – and provides drugs and alcohol to those who are “extra” deserving. The “date rape” drug used on the victim of the rape was supplied by known drug dealer Nathan Hubbard, who is also a patron of the Spot Bar in Steubenville. He did not suspend or bench any player.
Prosecuting Attorney Jane Hanlin is the mother of Charlie Keenan. She represented Edward “Eddie” Lulla in a civil legal matter after which Mr. Lulla is now an agent for the BCI who was sent by the State of Ohio to lend oversight to the rape investigation. The BCI has found everything to be going smoothly. Eddie’s son recently joined Steubenville’s Police Department. When the family of the victim went to file the charges, Jane Hanlin was present. She strongly discouraged them from filing, telling them that her name was going to be dragged through the mud, she will be in and out of court for well over two years, the press wouldn’t leave any of the family alone. In May of 2012, Mrs. Hanlin’s office handled a case where Ed Wilson, a football player, and two other individuals shot out the windows of 14 vehicles. Despite being arrested, and confessing to the crime Ed was never sentenced or paid restitution. In another case Mrs. Hanlin testified as a character witness for Branko Busick, a former football player after he was charges were armed robbery. She was testifying as a private citizen but several references were made to both her position and her husband’s in the PD. Even after receiving notice from the Attorney General’s office she remained on the School Board. Her first husband is Charlie Keenan, former SHS principal and star athlete in his day.
On Democracy Now Amy spoke with rape survivor and journalist for Ebony Zerlina who had an interesting point about the climate we raise our children in.
AMYGOODMAN: Zerlina, you wrote a piece this week, “Five Ways We Can Teach Men Not to Rape.” Talk about those ways.
ZERLINAMAXWELL: Yes. We need to teach people what consent is. And, you know, this week we’re seeing in Ohio the Steubenville rape trial with two high school football players, and the defense attorney is basically arguing that she was too drunk in order to say no, and so that means she’s implying that she consented to everything that happened when she began drinking that night. And, you know, number one on the list is, we need to teach young men about consent, because I think it’s not that people don’t know that rape is wrong. I think we all can agree that, you know, people know that it’s wrong. But I think a lot of people don’t know what rape is. And so, there are times when young men will be in a situation where they do something that they think is ambiguous, but in—legally, it’s classified as rape. And, you know, it all comes down to consent and knowing what that is.
AMYGOODMAN: One of the things you talk about and you raised on Fox and you talk about in your piece on the Steubenville case, which is headlined “Why Acquaintance Rape is Not a Myth” —
Zerlina who has been told women should carry guns to prevent rape points out that 80 percent of women, are raped by someone they know. If you are a responsible gun owner the weapon would be locked away while people you trust are in your space.
A rape victim lives in every other house in the slum, say the residents of Kasturba Nagar. He violated women to control men, ordering his henchmen to drag even girls as young as 12 to a nearby derelict building to be gang-raped.
When one 22-year-old reported being raped by Yadav, the police accused her of having an affair with him and sent her away. Several others were sent away after being told: “You’re a loose woman. That’s why he raped you.”
On the day of Yadav’s hearing, 200 women came to the court armed with vegetable knives and chilli powder. As he walked in, Yadav spotted one of the women he had raped. He called her a prostitute and threatened to repeat the crime against her. The police laughed. She took off her sandal and began to hit him, shouting, “We can’t both live on this Earth together. It’s you or me.”
Akku Yadav was lynched by a mob of around 200 women from Kasturba Nagar. It took them 15 minutes to hack to death the man they say raped them with impunity for more than a decade. Chilli powder was thrown in his face and stones hurled. As he flailed and fought, one of his alleged victims hacked off his penis with a vegetable knife. A further 70 stab wounds were left on his body. The incident was made all the more extraordinary by its setting. Yadav was murdered not in the dark alleys of the slum, but on the shiny white marble floor of Nagpur district court.
Today another story is getting national attention, this time in Cleveland Ohio, where an unarmed Black woman and man were killed by Cleveland police officers, after the officers fired 137 rounds at the 2 victims. According to the Cleveland Plain Dealer, the police thought they saw a possible weapon, the same excuse Michael Dunn gave when he was arrested for the murder of Jordan Davis.
Even though this incident took place last week, the officers involved in killing Malissa Williams and Timothy Russell have yet to be interviewed. According to the Cleveland Police Department they will be questioned today and it’s “standard procedure” to, “wait 72 hours before interviewing officers involved in shootings.”
Cleveland Police Chief Michael McGrath called the shooting a, “very regrettable situation”, but Jeffery Follmer, president of the Cleveland Police Patrolmen’s Association described Malissa Williams and Timothy Russell as “bad guys” and said the police did a “great job.” The Cuyahoga County Medical Examiner’s Office removed 20 rounds from Timothy Russell’s body and 16 from Malissa Williams’ body.
NYPD beat homeless man in synagogue outreach center October 17, 2012
The NYPD beat up a homeless man in Brooklyn last week as he resisted arrest for sleeping in a synagogue outreach center, where he had permission to stay. Surveillance video obtained by local news siteCrownHeights.info shows two officers brutally beating a shoeless and shirtless man, Ehud Halevi, who insisted he had permission to be in the center for troubled youth, ALIYA (Alternative Learning Institute for Young Adults).
Although sources confirmed with CrownHeights.info that Halevi had been sleeping in the space for a month with permission, one security guard, unaware of the arrangement, called the police. The guard later told the New York Daily News that he regretted making the call.
According to Gothamist, “[Halevi] was also pepper sprayed during the arrest, [and] was charged with assaulting a police officer, trespassing, resisting arrest and harassment. He’s currently out on bail and faces up to five years in prison for assaulting an officer.” The NYPD have yet to issue comment.
A man is brutally beaten and pepper sprayed for sleeping in a place where he had permission to be, and now he is the one facing charges. NYPD thugs in the past year have murdered unarmed citizens, carried out blatantly racist stop and frisks, interfered with the civil rights of Muslims, groped female protesters, and have illegally prevented public gatherings. They never apologize or even seem to worry about possible negative backlash. Want to know why? This is terrorism. They are sending a message to an increasingly impoverished and desperate citizenry that they are in control, that there is nothing that we can do to stop them, and that attempting to do so will get us bloodied, imprisoned, or killed. This is a police state and will remain one until we overthrow it.
How did it feel to imagine killing Arabs? “I felt happy” one girl answers.
She was one of several children who spoke about committing acts of violence in this video shot at the Israeli army museum by Israeli satirical filmmaker Itamar Rose.
But the children’s answers – in Hebrew and subtitled in English – are serious. As they climb all over tanks, sit at machine-guns positions, or explain how to use a hand-grenade, Rose asks them their views.
Without hesitation, the children express their readiness to kill. Asked what he imagined when he was sitting in a tank, one boy answers, “I picture a dead Arab.”
Of course, these children are no more ready to kill than any other children, nor can they be any more capable of understanding the import of their words, at least not yet.
The children in Rose’s film bring to mind the notorious image of Israeli schoogirls writing messages on artillery shells about to be fired into Lebanon during Israel’s 2006 assault that killed more than 1,200 Lebanese civilians and devastated much of the country.
Israeli girls write messages on shells ready to be fired by a mobile artillery unit toward Lebanon on 17 July 2006. (Pedro Ugarte / AFP)
Robertson’s advice here is plain: Women should be subordinate to their husbands and, if they are not, husbands have a right to beat them into subordination; getting women into line is a good thing. Actor Sean Connery — and many other people — agree that it’s “absolutely right” to slap a woman. It’s part of being a real man.
Men who beat and rape women want to feel powerful. They want to feel manly. And because hitting women and raping women makes them feel these things, they want to brag about it… A tattoo commemorating beating down your girlfriend is a trophy.
here are some of the arguments that i edited for a defense attorney who specialized in defending men accused of sexual assault, rape and domestic violence
* these cases work in a peculiar way — the jury won’t be swayed if the lawyer seems to be attacking a victim (especially female). so the defense plays up how smart and well-balanced the woman seems and how helpless and naive the guy is. if you’re cross-examining a woman and ask her nicely about a string of achievements — “you graduated summa cum laude from an ivy league school, correct?” “you started your own business, correct?” “you are in charge of over 40 people at your company, correct?” “if one of your employees behaved inappropriately, you would have no problem reprimanding or firing them, correct?” “a smart woman isn’t likely to stay with a man who beats her every night, right? does that sound right to you?” — the jury ends up having sympathy for her, but believing that she’s too smart (or pretty or accomplished or whatever vein the attorney picks) to let bad things happen to her
* when he cross-examines his own clients he emphasizes that they’re either too morally sound or too confused, “it was just a mistake,” so that sometimes you can admit that there was an altercation but (he tells the jury, shaking his head) you can’t call it rape because that’s too strong
* “victim pretended to be unconscious following alleged rape to avoid answering friend’s questions” - that’s a section heading for a case summary
* “friend did not initially believe explanation” - that’s the heading of the next section. in this particular case, the attorney cross-examined the victim’s friends and got them to admit that she was just a dramatic person, or flustered, pointing to signs that she either lied about this case or chronically lies/exaggerates * “victim had time to consider her circumstances before accusing client of rape” - she took until the next day to go to the police station, soooo * point out all the different ways she could have resisted or every possible sign of resistance that wasn’t there — the prosecution will focus on the few signs they have, but the defense can be really smarmy here and list every single way she did not resist
* if the woman was drunk, and the prosecution says she was unable to consent because she was drunk, the defense can call in experts on alcohol absorption and grill them until they admit that there’s a margin of error (“Since it was our contention that the alleged victim had exaggerated her level of intoxication to attract attention, and was not, therefore, too intoxicated to consent to sexual relations, the main goal of this cross-examination is to undermine the credibility of the chemist’s retrograde extrapolation calculations.” that’s a quote from a book i edited)
* and of course the good ol focusing on her sexual history, any flaws she could have, emphasize that these are human flaws and that nobody in this case deserves any punishment these are very convincing arguments to juries and that’s why we hesitate to report our sexual assaults and rapes, because “it’s not that big of a deal,” because there’s no way we could “let” that happen to us; because once we get to the police station they ask “what took you so long” and “how could you let that happen to you”; because when you get to the courtroom you’re subjected to this; and the time and the money and “i just want this to be over.” and then…the jury is so easily convinced. they say 1 in 4 women has been sexually assaulted, but i really think it’s more, and i don’t even want to know how many sexual assaults and rapes have happened with absolutely no mention — or even recognition — of them happening (from either party). let alone retribution
And people tell me that our society doesn’t perpetuate rape culture.
Our society perpetuates rape culture like no other. It makes me sick. Do you know that most colleges don’t have zero-tolerance policies in place against sexual offendors?
What does this mean? It means that a male student can assualt a female student, in her dorm, on college property, and be found guilty of it, and still be allowed to finish their education there and receive their degree there.. while the person they attacked is more likely to never finish their degree than their assualtant.
Fuck the denial of rape culture - it contributes to more sexual assault and more people feeling like they won’t be taken seriously, or treated with respect, if they do speak out.
it’s okay guys rape jokes are totally cool after all it’s not like normal people would ever condone rape right????
You know who thinks all Gus rape? Rapists. There are studies and nearly all rapists believe all men don’t require concent. Fact.
These are the best GOP rape quotes I could find - but message me if you have more! Let’s hold these people accountable.
1. Todd Akin: “If it’s a legitimate rape, the female body has ways of shutting that whole thing down” - mid 2012 Senate Campaign
2. Claytie Williams: “If it’s inevitable, just relax and enjoy it” - mid 1990 Gubernatorial race in Texas
3. Chuck Winder: “I would hope that when a woman goes in to a physician with a rape issue, that physician will indeed ask her about perhaps her marriage, was this pregnancy caused by normal relations in a marriage or was it truly caused by a rape. I assume that’s part of the counseling that goes on.” - March 2012
4. Ken Buck: “A jury could very well conclude that this is a case of buyer’s remorse … It appears to me … you invited him over… the appearance is of consent.” - October 2010
5. Rick Santorum: “I think the right approach is to accept this horribly created — in the sense of rape — but nevertheless a gift in a very broken way, the gift of human life, and accept what God has given to you… rape victims should make the best of a bad situation.” - January, 2012
Shauna Prewitt had a baby conceived in a rape. She says many women who are raped become pregnant and give birth. After her child was born she found the majority of states give parental rights to men who father through rape. Now she is a lawyer who encourages states to make this illegal.